tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post791899819588006943..comments2023-10-14T04:09:50.089-04:00Comments on Who You Calling Boy? Theorizing Masculinities: Week 9: Men and FamilyLelahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03640732597515957150noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-92229626613891638832009-10-24T00:09:08.437-04:002009-10-24T00:09:08.437-04:00Creating a masculinity to live up to usually leads...Creating a masculinity to live up to usually leads to at least one thing: a constant feeling of emasculation as the persyn realizes that their life isn't a picture perfect masculine example. When a society connects monetary capital and power, especially in family dynamics, this leads to the constant threat of emasculation through economic loss. When a father feels he has to live up to the &Evan Wysshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16028449808938657306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-9114148631532048372009-10-23T23:58:04.122-04:002009-10-23T23:58:04.122-04:00In a truly egalitarian household, men shouldn'...In a truly egalitarian household, men shouldn't be expected to promote a prescribed set of values. Something that is so harmful for "traditional" households is that many things are expected of a father that might not only be detrimental, but also may not have any relation to the father's true self. If a father has a self-expectation of living up to the myths of traditional Evan Wysshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16028449808938657306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-64005309771721881132009-10-23T14:31:39.557-04:002009-10-23T14:31:39.557-04:00"...my dad's understanding of sexism and ..."<i>...my dad's understanding of sexism and homophobia was regrettably shallow....he neglected many of the patriarchal and heterosexist structures and patterns within his own heart....[he] focused mainly on the obstacles and suffering among us, not the privileges that we enjoy.</i>" (MSO 200)<br /><br />This is the most poignant passage within the "a tribute to my father" the attendant.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12829810703302472751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-6271610085870541882009-10-23T11:18:22.737-04:002009-10-23T11:18:22.737-04:00I cannot personally relate, as I am not a man, yet...I cannot personally relate, as I am not a man, yet I have a father and he was appositive figure in my life. My dad has always been a hard worker making sure my sister; mother and I have a great life. We always had a winter house in the Keys, but it was my mom’s idea to move there permanently for high school. Sacrificing this, my dad would have to work from March-Nov in Pennsylvania and live in Merritt Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12746804656222890099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-60696629294434945362009-10-22T23:26:39.470-04:002009-10-22T23:26:39.470-04:00In a way, it makes sense to believe that children ...In a way, it makes sense to believe that children raised in more egalitarian households will have more egalitarian values, but as we discussed (a little bit) tonight, upbringing does not necessarily determine outcome. With that in mind, in the article, "Fathering: Paradoxes, Contradictions, and Dilemmas," author Scott Coltrane writes, "[W]hen fathers are active in infant care, Holly Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00383796653978240804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-47254967296856760722009-10-22T18:15:04.751-04:002009-10-22T18:15:04.751-04:00Masculine/Male-identified folks are no doubt influ...Masculine/Male-identified folks are no doubt influenced by patriarchy and its connections to capitalism when it comes to viewing their roles as the 'sole breadwinner' of the family. I think however, this realization does not explain much by itself in any way to promote greater egalitarianism. For one, the causes and consequences of capitalist processes are a product of people of all jorge mendozahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06702397053040768586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-44095757592779506802009-10-22T17:07:25.237-04:002009-10-22T17:07:25.237-04:00^^^^^^^ whoooops! that was jaime on amanda's c...^^^^^^^ whoooops! that was jaime on amanda's computer :")amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14532288567873665361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-86061546386616390522009-10-22T17:06:01.849-04:002009-10-22T17:06:01.849-04:00Though he’s never admitted it, I hold true to the ...Though he’s never admitted it, I hold true to the belief that my dad was a feminist back in his day. As an amazing basketball player in high school (his nickname all around Jersey was “Ice Water” because he never missed a free-throw), my dad made it onto Clemson’s second-strong basketball team in college. Realizing he wouldn’t get much playing time, however, my dad decided to start his own amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14532288567873665361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-67779090210459349572009-10-22T17:05:49.240-04:002009-10-22T17:05:49.240-04:00Although I never realized it before this week’s re...Although I never realized it before this week’s readings, my dad has always played a very gender-positive role in my life. To be fair, my mom still does the majority of the household cleaning/cooking, but my dad always offers to cook (my sister and I begged him as children to open up “Chef Jeff” and serve only delicious breakfast foods – he still makes the best scrambled eggs around) and always amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14532288567873665361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-42730253110312509362009-10-22T17:05:20.064-04:002009-10-22T17:05:20.064-04:00I’ll admit it. I cried throughout the entirety of ...I’ll admit it. I cried throughout the entirety of the readings from “Men Speak Out” regarding men in families this week, especially Chris Dixon’s “A Tribute to My Father.” As some of you may know, my father has been battling various forms of cancer for the past 10+ years, and his struggle has affected me greatly both emotionally and physically, especially over the past few years. Because I am nowamandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14532288567873665361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-74350672864023409582009-10-22T16:50:14.514-04:002009-10-22T16:50:14.514-04:00If children are raised in households that practice...If children are raised in households that practice and promote egalitarian values the children are more likely to practice partnership and teamwork in everything they do. Personally having come from a family a family that was cemented in patriarchal values I try to guide my own partnership in ways that are equal though myself and my partner struggle with that quite a bit because we don’t have Abigailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13867817412799654956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-10699756334207800912009-10-22T16:24:20.892-04:002009-10-22T16:24:20.892-04:00By having an egalitarian household, parents can te...By having an egalitarian household, parents can teach their children good values and mindsets on gender equality. When a relationship is hierarchal then the children of that relationship will see this as the “norm” and expect this for themselves as they grow up. This will promote equality in a child’s life and hopefully would spill over in to race, class, orientation, etc. When one side is Andrea L.A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17892716313778816596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-75458101230209491932009-10-22T15:26:15.297-04:002009-10-22T15:26:15.297-04:00To address this prompt I wanted to highlight somet...To address this prompt I wanted to highlight something Unger said in his essay: “We may be on the cusp of fundamentally- and to my mind, positively- shifting to a much more open definition of family and of care giving. I hope we are broadening what is possible- or, perhaps more accurately, what is acceptable- for a man to do with his life (p. 210).” I have to agree with Unger’s statement; I Clarainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08608757371592113713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-18809615529368805282009-10-22T15:18:39.304-04:002009-10-22T15:18:39.304-04:00I guess I have a different take on this blog promp...I guess I have a different take on this blog prompt and I'm just going to run with it. The first question asks, “if children are raised in a truly egalitarian household what values do you think they will promote in life?” I am curious how we are defining “a truly egalitarian household” so that we are all speaking the same language. Is this based off of a heteronormative kinship model of the Sara Nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07399483771311659869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-36420740118663342622009-10-22T15:04:53.503-04:002009-10-22T15:04:53.503-04:00I love the topic this week, particularly because I...I love the topic this week, particularly because I love learning about family dynamics. First of all, I think it would be incredibly difficult to live in a completely egalitarian household. In the article “A Tribute to My Father” this is especially clear because while the father did make an attempt to be a feminist and an anti-sexist father, “he was still a man at times drowning in his own Ashley Halpinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13653497901538946686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-37446400089529235252009-10-22T13:02:33.933-04:002009-10-22T13:02:33.933-04:00While I had a few issues with some of the readings...While I had a few issues with some of the readings this week, mostly personal and dealt with my inability to relate to men within families. However I think it is important to note what Coltrane said in <i>Men's Lives</i> "We cannot simply assume that more father involvement is better for all families. too much involvement by fathers can be interpreted as interference rather than Ani Reinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11621065479316491959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-76947276546244977032009-10-22T12:33:42.424-04:002009-10-22T12:33:42.424-04:00Yey!!! Men in the family week(my week to present)....Yey!!! Men in the family week(my week to present)... Tonight Heather, Brian, Abigail & myself will be presenting men in the family. We all read and found some pretyy good questions to bring up. Also, don't forget to bring in your AD represetingmen in the family, as Abigail suggested. Everything I want to blog about will be in our uestions tonight, so I am going to wait to post my blog Merritt Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12746804656222890099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-27337411598100326762009-10-22T12:16:11.383-04:002009-10-22T12:16:11.383-04:00The reading that I related to the most this week w...The reading that I related to the most this week were "Strategies Men Use to Resist" and "Judging Fathers". While it is hard to judge entirely on ways men should parent because I am not a man, secondly not a wife and most importantly I'm not even a parent. However I couldn't help but have flashbacks of an old relationship I had with a live in boyfriend of three years. Antiheroinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10215643733855404164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-46995650505193324712009-10-22T10:48:53.373-04:002009-10-22T10:48:53.373-04:00From reading “Strategies Men Use to Resist” (413-4...From reading “Strategies Men Use to Resist” (413-419) the easiest way to be equalitarian is do the opposite of these strategies of resistance: passive resistance because invested cooperation; incompetence becomes an educated understanding of responsibility; one-parent praise becomes cooperative praise of family jobs; different standards becomes an understood foundation of standards; and denial Gravityreignshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18238802588887585635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-54313464551186471622009-10-22T09:14:27.120-04:002009-10-22T09:14:27.120-04:00In Dixon's essay, A Tribute to My Father, he u...In Dixon's essay, A Tribute to My Father, he used a quote that particularly stood out to me:<br />"We have for the first time a generation of men coming to adulthood who were not born into a world automatically submerged with sexist socialization that says that women are not the intellectual or work equals of men."<br /><br />I believe that the environment in which we are raised Ariel Danskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05085837756644995104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-54229721435829760472009-10-22T03:37:27.747-04:002009-10-22T03:37:27.747-04:00To me, one of the best ways to teach someone is to...To me, one of the best ways to teach someone is to lead by example and through observation one can form their own thoughts rather than being lectured or told . In regards to the household, by a child observing an egalitarian relationship and seeing how it works (and that it can work) allows for the child to be more critical of the status quo and they can personally attest to what is the norm/Cristoinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16616841418820054105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3961395393886635340.post-66819222542063911562009-10-21T17:38:17.709-04:002009-10-21T17:38:17.709-04:00I feel like the essay by Chris Dixon, A Tribute to...I feel like the essay by Chris Dixon, A Tribute to my Father, addresses many of the questions raised for this weeks blog. Dixon offers an extremely powerful and accurate explanation of how difficult it can be to create a completely “egalitarian” household. He explains that throughout his childhood, his parents challenged traditional gender roles and his father shared many of the same Anita P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13891883315579905181noreply@blogger.com