Sexuality, With Emphasis on “Sex”

I’m sure we’ve all heard the typical story. Boy meets girl. Girl shows even a sliver of interest. Boy gets sexual and expects girl to have an equal response. Girl declines and expresses discontent. Boy kicks girl to the curb. Why does it seem that this is a norm in the dating scene? Whether personal experience or through a story from a friend I’m sure we’ve all heard how men on social media or dating apps almost immediately jump to sexual topics.

This isn’t limited to only heterosexual dating either. Gay dating apps like Grindr that are specifically for hooking up have deepened the oversexualization and emphasis on the physical body. When does a man realize that there’s more to a partner than just sex? Sex and intimacy are important for a relationship of course, but why is that the leading topic from the get-go? Is it the sexualization of women or the body in general in media? Or perhaps more likely, the easily accessed pornography where almost every sexual partner is depicted as this sex hungry object of pleasure who’s only goal is to serve the men.

Many men are taught to believe that part of being a man and masculinity is being sexually active and “strong-willed” in that regard, but It’s hard to understand how someone can behave in such a way toward people and actually expect a positive response. I don’t have to deal with it, and I created distance between myself and people who behave disrespectfully, but I still hear of it all the time unfortunately.

Some humor to lighten the mood. :)