Sunday, October 15, 2017

There are Strengths of Masculinity and Femininity

      There are many feminists that believe women should be able to obtain the same job as all men. When it comes to business type jobs or teaching I believe that they should be able to get those jobs but there are some jobs that women can’t do or not willing to do. On the other hand there are some jobs men can’t do or willing to do. Men are better at construction work because they are naturally stronger than a lot of women. Just like women make better nurses and teachers because we naturally have a caring demeanor and we can be emotional which makes a great caregiver. In this article it speaks about how most men and women react to certain things and how they are a strength and a weakness. There is a chart on the article that shows how women and men are in certain areas of the workplace. It shows that men are more goal oriented and not as focused on building relationships but instead it’s a competition to get to the top. Women focus more on building relationships to make it to the top. They don’t make their employees less than but more of an equal. There are advantages and disadvantages for both but if both men and women were on the top working together the goal will get achieved at a reasonable time with a great outcome. 

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

"Hip-Hop Culture" Derived from Ideas of Hypermasculinity

           I found this article published by Odyssey, that speaks about hip-hop culture, black masculinity, and hypermasculinity similar to our module four lesson on “Racializing Masculinities.”  This article discusses how hip-hop culture is derived from the roots of political and social injustices and how the messages we hear of rape culture, violence, and misogyny has “engrafted in the doctrine of black male masculinity in predominantly African-American communities” (Richardson) which stems from the ideas of hypermasculinity.

         It describes the themes of the street life, drugs, violence, misogyny, and power which all stems from the ideas of hypermasculinity. Unfortunately, this promotes a message to listeners that it’s okay to degrade women as objects, violence makes a man tough, and that drugs provide prestige and wealth which is far from the truth.

You can read the article here: 

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Hip Hop: Golden Era vs New Age Era - Gangsta vs Drug Addicts.. Choose..

As I sit here and listen to the radio its an endless track list of songs talking about how many percocets a rapper can take, how loud their weed is, and how purple their drink is. I begin to reflect on rap music and hip hop culture over the past 25 years and how it has changed. I've been listening to Hip Hop for as long as I can remember. I remember when I was 10 years and I got my first Rap Greatest hits tape and it had Kool Mo-Dee, Whoodini, Big Daddy Kane, etc. They were rapping about having a good time, partying, and how fresh they were. Fast forward to 3 yrs later and I get my first Wu-Tang Clan tape and it blew my mind. For the first time I heard cursing on a tape, violence, and drug dealing. It was hyper masculine, misogynistic, and very underground. It was something that was never heard before. It shaped my adolescent years of growing up. Now I sit here in my car and hear this new wave of music and I think to myself, if i had to choose one of these eras of hip hop knowing the influential impact it has on a youth which one would I want to raise me. The era of Gangsta Rap or the era of Drug Addict rap?

Friday, September 29, 2017

I may not look like "The Rock" or Brad Pitt, but my wife is happy

A recent study completed by Florida State University showed that woman are generally happier in their relationships if their partner is less attractive than they are. This is a interesting development. As a society we are so focused on the aesthetics of the physical body and everything that comes along with it. There is a huge market for supplements for men to help you get ripped, all types of hair products to have awesome hair, and rules on how to act like a man. And the reality of it all is that the companies behind all these things are not trying to help men, they are just trying to make money. If they were really smart, they would tap into these recent survey findings and drill down to exactly why women feel this way and develop campaigns to target the average guy. The majority of the heterosexual population do not look like the men that we see on a daily basis trying to tell us that in order to be a man, we should look like them.

Monday, September 25, 2017

I guess I am adult now.....

Do situations encountered dictate your ability to "adult" based on how you respond to them or are you just an adult because you are of age?

Growing up I thought the answer was the latter part of the question. I am 21 of "age", can drink, totally responsible for my own actions, and am independent. Boy was I wrong. During my 20's I thought I knew everything. Bought a house, got married, started a career. Only to be divorced, living back at home with my parents, and struggling to find my way.

I realized at that moment that I sucked at this "adult" thing and I really had no clue what it was about.

Fast forward to several years later, I got re-married, bought a new home, and had children. Now its no longer about me. I have to be strategic with my actions, I have a family I am responsible for.

The situations and life challenges have shaped my being as an adult and it is only the beginning. I have still much growing too do. This is when and how it all dawned on me. When was you Ah-Ha moment?

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Sunday, September 24, 2017

Men's "Ideal" Body Types

          The male body is a form of art just like the female body. However, when it comes to body objectification it’s more common and unfortunately expected to see women’s bodies in full display as opposed to men.  This doesn’t mean that male bodies aren’t objectified; it’s just not as common. This is similar to the concepts we learned in “The Male Body” module where we discussed the ideal beauty standards for men like grooming their hair, taking care of their skin, to how their bodies are put up on display in the media.

      In relation to the ideal beauty standards for men, a video and article published on Buzzfeed for Body Positivity Week show how the Try Guys try to recreate photos of their ideal body type. It shows how men just like women, are pressured to feel a certain way and that they too have insecurities when it comes to their bodies.  In the end of the day, we as people should love our bodies regardless of the beauty standards that society places on both men and women. Looks aren’t everything! Our beauty shines from within.

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

"Genderless" Baby

I found a video that describes some of the concepts addressed in our “Historicizing and Theorizing Masculinity” module. One of the concepts we discussed was the history of boys clothing and how it drastically differ overtime. It also talked about the sexual “color coding” and how it become a social tradition since the 1920’s. They had baby boys dressed in blue while baby girls wore pink. This in a way reinforced gender norms and quickly placed babies in gender constructs.  Already, newborns were being gendered as one or the other thus, also reinforcing the idea that gender is a binary system.
This video I found describes how a Toronto family has decided to make their child genderless. They decided to name their baby Storm,  and only the family and their close friends, know the sex of the baby. As for everyone else, they don’t know how to classify if baby Storm is a boy or a girl. This stirs up the debate that if parents like this Toronto family are doing the right thing by having their baby Storm viewed as genderless to others. What do you think about this? You can check out the video here: 

Sunday, September 3, 2017

"Boys don't Cry"

I found this video on YouTube and think about what we are learned this week about little boys are not allowed to cry.  Around the age of  5 years old, boys are told by their parents or caregivers that "boys do not cry". Usually, around that age if a boy decides to play with a doll, he can get punished.  After I watch the video that we had for module 1, "The Mas You Live In", I definitely thankful to my grandparents to guide me with my son.  They told me that it was not a good idea to limit my son while he was little to show his feelings.  That made my son a great guy now that he is 22 years old he is caring, loving and awesome young adult that is not afraid to show his feelings toward others.

We have to educate ourselves and others to build a better community around us and to teach our sons, nephews, male cousins and men around us that there is nothing wrong about crying when they feel like it or when they want to.

Thank you so much for watching and reading my post.

Friday, September 1, 2017

I found this video while scrolling through Facebook. I thought it would be a good share because it shows two men who are tasked with wearing acrylic nails for a week.
The two men have very different personalities. One man is very secure with his masculinity and attempts to get very long and decorative nails; while the other is a bit "fragile". The self proclaimed "fragile" male gets his nails a lot shorter. The video then shows us how they are coping with the nails with everyday tasks, such as typing , and using he restroom.  The video also allows the two men to express how they are feeling when people react to their nails. Both negative and positive responses were experienced.

Monday, August 28, 2017

The "Man" Box

           In relation to “Act like a Man: Introducing Masculinities” module I found a Ted Talk with Tony Porter describing the concept of the “man” box. In this video he describes the way how men are “taught to be tough, courageous, strong, and how men should be in charge” (Tony Porter Ted Talk: A Call to Men). This demonstrates the idea of the “man” box which enforces that  men are supposed to not cry, be tough, fight like a man, and be financial successful.  I inserted image below of what the “man” box looks like.

           Here we can see what the “man” box contains. It shows what men are described as and who they should be portrayed as. While the feelings of what any human would be feel should be locked in the confines of this box.  The Ted Talk link below goes more into depth of the image seen here and how men should break free of this “man” box.

Sunday, April 30, 2017

Joe Biden's Advice to College Men

Joe Biden's Advice to College Men (Buzzfeed)

"...a woman who is dead drunk cannot consent. YOU ARE RAPING HER."

Tuesday, February 28, 2017

The Wrestler and the Cornflake Girl

Ring legend Mick Foley explains how Tori Amos changed his life (links to article)
(by Mick Foley, compliments of Slate Magazine)

Mick Foley and Tori Amos are two of my heroes. I have never been into wrestling beyond when I was a very young girl but have seen Tori Amos almost every time she has ever played live in Central Florida. If you haven't seen her--you should at least watch her play two pianos at once online. Lyrically, she straight up slithers into your soul but has typically been considered "chick music." I was lucky enough to know musicians who appreciated her talent and skill and transcended stereotypes quite willingly. But it wasn't until I learned about Mick Foley from a student who took a Theories of Masculinity course with me that I gained a greater appreciation for the incredible power of commingling--the most stereotypically masculine man and his counterpart, but oh so talented and compassionate and real and so much in common when one may never guess or imagine and that is the lesson. One of them anyway... This is a story that has many stories but he and she are worth exploring further if you don't know them. They are feminist activists against sexual assault, rape, trafficking, and sexism. They are intriguing, brilliant, compassionate individuals who defy stereotypes and expectations. And they both inspire the hell out of me. 

Monday, February 20, 2017

Toxic masculinity (from the GeekFeminism Wiki)

Toxic masculinity is one of the ways in which Patriarchy is harmful to men. It refers to the socially-constructed attitudes that describe the masculine gender role as violent, unemotional, sexually aggressive, and so forth.
A well-known masculinity/men's rights movement that is not mostly anti-feminist has yet to appear. For a silencing tactic used to discredit patriarchy's harm to people who are not men, see Patriarchy hurts men too.

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

Republicans condemn university's masculinity program as a 'war on men'

As someone who proposed and teaches a course on "masculinities," I find this alarming, to say the least. I would appreciate any of these politicians signing up for a masculinities course before making assumptions. If expanding concepts of masculinity to enable men to be who they want to be beyond established parameters is considered a "war on men," then call me General. Seriously... Leave education to educators. 

From Edward Helmore's article in The Guardian:

"The latest row over academic freedom erupted at the University of Wisconsin at Madison in December when a Republican state senator, Steve Nass, launched an attack on the chancellor and regents over an 
undergraduate program on masculinity that Nass claims “declares war on men”.

Tuesday, December 13, 2016

Sexism: What’s the point?

I found an article on The Washington Post that explains how people who are sexist have more psychological problems compared to people who aren’t sexist – oh, the irony. Researchers found 11 norms considered to be “traditionally masculine” which were the desire to win, need for emotional control, risk-taking, violence, dominance, sexual promiscuity or playboy behavior, self-reliance, primacy of work, power over women, disdain for homosexuality and pursuit of status — and looked to see whether they were associated with particular mental health outcomes  (Kaplan, 2016). They found that men who stuck more strongly to these norms were more likely to experience problems such as depression, stress, body image issues, substance abuse and negative social functioning. They were also less likely to "[T]urn to counseling to help deal with those problems. The effect was particularly strong for men who emphasized playboy behavior, power over women and self-reliance" (Kaplan, 2016). If sexism harms both the perpetrator and the victim, then what’s the point? Understanding the sloth-like speed at which social change occurs, we can’t expect people that hold sexist views to change over night. We can, on the other hand, raise kids so that they don’t display this kind of behavior and try to warn people of the potentially psychological impairment that these views can have on both parties.

Female Rappers on the Come Up

How many female rappers can you name? A decade ago you may have only been able to name a hand full – if that. The most common responses would most likely have been Missy Elliot and Lil’ Kim. Now, you would probably hear Nicki Minaj, Dej Loaf, and Young M.A., Iggy Azalea, and Honey Cocaine just to name a few. Female rappers are not only becoming more prevalent, but also more accepted within the hip-hop/rap culture. To me, it is extremely interesting that the number of female rappers is in on the rise, not because I doubt their ability, but because hip-hop/rap is seen as an outlet in which black men can express their masculinity. From our class discussions, everyone knows that hip-hop and rap is dominated by black men expressing hypermasculinity, sexism, and violence. Oddly enough, one of the most profound topics are women and the use and disposal of them by men. This field is so dominated by men that one has to wonder why a women would want to be a part of a culture that degrades their own sex. I would reason that rap isn’t just about men proving themselves and exploiting women, but it’s a form of expression; it allows a person to tell a story – their story. Rap allows a person to speak on things that has greatly impacted their life and contributed to the person they have become. Obviously, women find pleasure in this form of expression even if they don’t talk about the same things as men.

The influx of female rappers in and of itself says something about the transition that is taking place within the hip-hop and rap culture. Because women are being permitted more access to this historically male-dominated field, it goes to show that talent supersedes a person’s sex. Not only that, but this says that the attitude that rappers once held about allowing female rappers into their faction so to speak has changed. For females to be granted access to this field is a huge accomplishment and I hope to see even more female rappers in the next few years.

Overt Sexist Commercials

How many of you have ever drank Folgers coffee? Ate Skittles? Drank Coke? Some of these most notorious food and drank brands have not only produced food/drinks that we know and love, but also overtly sexist commercials and/or ads. I included a commercial that Folgers released in the 1960’s. Watch it. Do you think they would still release something like that today? Of course not! In fact, I just saw a Folgers commercial and it was completely different from the one they released in the 1960’s. This just goes to show how society influences corporations and how corporations influence society. In other words, if it wasn’t socially acceptable to advertise a product in such a way, corporations wouldn’t advertise it (or at least I like to think they wouldn’t). With that being said, commercials like this further reinforced traditional stereotypical social norms and prototypes that of men and women. At the end of the day, these monopolized corporations may have just been trying to appeal to the then dominant view of American culture, but it still illuminates the mentality that existed in America at that point in time.

I know plenty of older women and women that are not so old, (40’s) that explained how when they were my age all they wanted to do was finish high school so they could get a job, a husband, and have kids. My grandma, for instance, and my best friend’s mom and grandma held this view. They will tell you that that’s what every girl wanted and that that’s what was expected of them. Now, women have a lot more autonomy and freedom to decide first, if they want to have children, and second, when they want them – without all of the scrutiny and stigma that would have accompanied a women in the 1900’s.


I feel like a lot of social norms are changing, and in some cases have even been reversed in regards to gender roles of males and females. I came to this conclusion from the countless amount of memes that I see every day on Instagram and Facebook. These memes are exploiting the flaws of men and accrediting women with the roles that men are “supposed” to do. Having said that, yes, it is socially constructed that men are supposed to be the breadwinners while the women take care of the children. However, there are men, and all of us could easily name several right of the back, that truly believe they are superior to women, that women are there to fulfill their sexual desires, and to bear their “seed.” With that being said, there are men who are.. ready for it? Here it is… HYPOCRITES! There are men who believe they are superior to women, and I mean like total misogynists, yet they rely on women – whether it be there girlfriend/wife, mother, sister, grandma or what have you, for support – which is fine! The problem lies where they down talk and disrespect women when clearly if it weren’t for women they wouldn’t be where they are. Hence, a lot of memes are being created off of this phenomenon. Memes become popular when people are able to relate to them, when they are funny, and/or when they normalize situations that may feel as if they only apply to you. Needless to say, memes convey a whole lot of truth. I think girls are tired of men taking all of the credit for things they are “supposed” to do but don’t. And if you say “Well, we don’t live in those times anymore” or “You can’t expect a man to be on their A-game 100% of time” that’s cool, in fact you’re right! Just give women the credit they deserve, that’s all we’re asking for!

Male Ballet Dancers

A lot of people see male ballot dancers as being effeminate and find the art emasculating, but you must know that dance is a wonderful form of expression. Dancers narrate stories from a variety of different orientations including anything from happiness to darkness and death. Ballet originated in France and structure and techniques alone are more complex than most dance genres. Not only that, ballet teaches you the fundamentals of all dances. Even football players take ballet classes. So, even though football is seen as the most masculine sport, they use an art that is viewed as feminine to help them be better and their “masculine” sport. The Benefits of taking ballet as a football player helps them with their flexibility, strength and stamina. Just imagine the immense amount of hours practicing grande jeté, pliés, and lifts or land on your feet gracefully without losing balance. Even hip-hop dancers need to work on their plies. Male hip-hop dancers should not be the only dancers that are considered masculine, when clearly it is highly intertwined with ballet. We should really move away from this idea that male ballot dancers are gay or feminine simply because of the genre of dance they perform.

Wednesday, December 7, 2016

Take it Like a Man: Hegemonic Masculinity

            This paper focuses on the “effects of humour studied within one organization where physical, misogynistic and homophobic humour is highly emphasized and encouraged.”  The author, Barbara Plaster, uses the concept of hegemonic masculinity to argue that men use workplace humor is used to form a “hyper-masculine” identity within this organization. The definition of humor an interesting area from the paper as well, because it is not often something we need to define.  Plaster notes the various manifestations that humor can take, “a stimulus that causes laughter; a response to a stimulus; or a disposition towards viewing things in a humorous light.” 
            Through observation, Plaster got the following results:


This chapter on masculinity by Judith Kegan Gardiner, examines, from a historical and theoretical perspective, masculinity and feminism and how they interact.  Gardiner goes all the way back to ancient Greece and Aristotle.  “The ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle portrayed women as naturally men’s inferiors in terms of reason.” 

Of the proponents of women at that time, Gardiner said they “repeatedly asked if God and nature had made women so clearly inferior to men, why were such strong social inducements necessary to retain their subjugation?”  In the chapter, she also touches on white feminism and its implications, as well as “multidimensional feminist theories,” or intersectionality.