Thursday, September 29, 2016

Men vs. Women


Western culture has seen a dramatic increase in the objectification of the male body. Advertisers have created a trend objectifying the male body in order to sell their products. They claim that if their product is purchased then the man will have success in their employment, romantic and personal life. They claim that with hair gel, cologne and underwear men are more appealing to women. They go as far as sexualizing products such as salad dressing. So the question stands: is the objectification of the male body the same as the objectification of the female body? The answer: yes and no. Yes because males are being portrayed as an object the same way that females are. They are told that if they look a certain way then they will possess attributes for success. No because the success they are promoting is different for both genders. The male success includes prosperity, power and strength. The female success includes a man who will provide prosperity, power and strength. Men are certainly objectified in our society and will continue to be. Whether their objectification is different or equal to the female objectification, it is detrimental to both genders.

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Toxic Masculinity


Toxic Masculinity

A recent review for the new movie GOAT, outlines an ongoing problem of fraternity hazing. Fraternity's promise a brotherhood, an unbreakable bond between frat brothers, along with great parties, and a very memorable college experience. Hazing is done during pledge weak to separate the "men" from the "weak". The movie illustrates how hazing has gone too far in our society. These men are emasculating, and tortured only to prove they are masculine. How ironic? To say that masculinity is socially constructed is an understatement. This behavior is not built into our genes, it is learned. This type of behavior becomes normalized, and has been the society norm for fraternity's for years. I remember when my brother joined a fraternity at FSU, how his grades suffered that first semester because he was consumed with pledge week, and becoming a part of his fraternity. A fraternity, who, years later was shut down due to a hazing scandal. I never thought much about what he endured then, but it makes me sad to think about it now. I'm sure if you asked him today, if he would do it all again, he would say "in a heartbeat". We sacrifice a lot in our lives to belong, to be a part of something bigger.

Sunday, September 25, 2016

This is Life with Lisa Ling: Pick Up Artist Camp (SO GOOD)

FASCINATING and actually refreshing and profound in relation to concepts related to masculinity and relationships. This is not the full episode but hopefully you can find it through your cable/satellite provider or online otherwise. It's on Netflix and can be streamed on CNN FREE. This episode is Season 2, Episode 7.


This is Life with Lisa Ling: Pick-Up Artist Camp

Saturday, September 24, 2016

Real Men Eat Meat


Image result for male vegetarians
DailyMail Vegan Article
By Cheyenne Drews
(Click for article by Madlen Davies)

     Fresh out of high school I began dating a guy who was a vegetarian. The diet had always gone back and forth in my mind, but while still under my parents' roof, I didn't have much say. Having moved out and with the final push of my boyfriend's influence, I too gave up meat and have since witnessed the reception of our decisions in very sexist ways.
Image result for man grilling father's day ad     Early on in a meal, people watch him order tofu or vegetables and laugh at the decision. Around his guy friends, he's ostracized for not getting the steak or sharing burgers or wanting everything wrapped in bacon. At this point, relations are still joking and both sides aren't too defensive. It's when he starts detailing why he chose to stop eating meat, that a clear divide arises and people take sides. The women typically say, "I understand where he's coming from", whereas the men, witnessing a challenge to manhood expectations, say in response to how they can kill animals for their consumption, "It tastes too good!" I watch as they think killing something, showing dominance, ending life for a mere palate desire, equals masculinity.
     I remember a specific birthday that his family took him out to eat. His older sisters, all dating the classic ideals of masculinity, thought it would be funny to order him a meat plate spelling out, "Happy birthday", when he got up from the table. If it had been me not wanting to eat it, it would be a choice. But for him as a male, it was unfathomable and not taken seriously. He's seen as weaker, despite his actual physique, and less relatable to men who have to see meat on their plate to call it a meal.
Image result for hamburger ad with women     Side note, how many attractive women are used in the market of selling meat? Even the industry knows they're targeting men. The ads can be so sexualized, furthering the idea that men have to eat meat, maintain a top of the food chain mentality, but what does this tell men about their capacity to empathize?
   
     My boyfriend at the time was called gay, feminine, etc. frequently when he defended caring about something outside of the realm of sports, guns, grilling, sex, and the stereotypical man desires. His stance on empathy politically deemed him, "UnAmerican", as if not acting entitled made him less of a man and less American. These challenges to his psyche got to him overtime, but I continue to keep him in mind as someone that challenged the ideals of masculinity and made me question why men have to be restrained to it at all.


Thursday, September 22, 2016

"It's a Boy Thing..." by Emilie Bobrow

Data suggest that couples who have sons are more likely to stay together than those that don’t. Emily Bobrow looks into why this might be.

A student in my graduate Gender Theories course shared this during a discussion about sex/gender and babies. I had not thought about the impact of baby's sex on relationships in quite this way but it, sadly, makes sense in some ways (whether we are conscious of it or not). Thoughts?

Thursday, September 15, 2016

Why Is Pink for Girls and Blue for Boys?

Could it be possible that dressing boys in blue and girls in pink is all part of an advertisement ploy? Evidence points to the fact that up until the 1980s, there was no such thing as differentiating a baby's gender through the color of their clothes. As a matter of fact, before this was a phenomenon, clothes was used to identify ones age. Before then, boys and girls would be dressed in dresses. Eventually pants and skirts were created. So what created that shift? Well it could be said that because pants were more expensive to make, companies began to advertise them and create a movement towards them. Could pink vs blue clothing also stem from advertisement? There is no factual answer to this question, however, it is a likely explanation.

Why Is Pink for Girls and Blue for Boys?

Stone Butch Blues 20th Anniversary Author’s Edition now available! (free download)



Stone Butch Blues, Leslie Feinberg's 1993 first novel, is widely considered in and outside the U.S. to be a groundbreaking work about the complexities of gender. Feinberg was the first theorist to advance a Marxist concept of transgender liberation" in hir theoretical nonfiction book,* Transgender Warriors: Making History.




Stone Butch Blues has sold hundreds of thousands of copies, been passed from hand-to-hand inside prisons, and been translated into Chinese, Dutch, German, Italian, Slovenian, Turkish, and Hebrew (with hir earnings from that edition going to ASWAT Palestinian Gay Women). The novel was winner of the 1994 American Library Association Stonewall Book Award and a 1994 Lambda Literary Award.

Leslie Feinberg worked up to a few days before hir death in November 2014 to ready the 20th Anniversary Author Edition of Stone Butch Blues to make it available to all, in free-download and at-cost-print editions. This action was one part of hir entire life work as a revolutionary communist to change the world in the struggle for justice and liberation from oppression.

"This Is What Solidarity Looks Like"
This Author's Edition of Stone Butch Blues is dedicated to CeCe McDonald, a young Minneapolis trans woman of color organizer and activist sent to prison for defending herself against a white neo-Nazi attacker.

Accessible at www.lesliefeinberg.net is a slideshow, "This Is What Solidarity Looks Like," that documents the breadth of the global organizing campaign to free CeCe McDonald. Feinberg developed the slideshow with the help of scores of activist photographers."This Is What Solidarity Looks Like" is a powerful teaching and organizing tool to show how a mass liberation movement started from a single community achieves a global reach.

*A Note from Minnie Bruce Pratt* 
(who was kind enough to disseminate this announcement): 

Leslie explains in "Author's Rights and Requests" hir decision as a revolutionary communist to make Stone Butch Blues available free to all through digital download. The at-cost Lulu print version fulfills hir goal of making *Stone Butch Blues* available in a no-profit-to-anyone edition. Leslie's "Author's Rights and Requests" can be found at the end of the new edition. In that section, Leslie also briefly discusses some of hir decisions about
how zie/she chose to narrate the novel.

Sunday, September 11, 2016

Man Box in Real Life

Hello all,

After studying the Man Box, I had my own first hand experience on how that affects men in our society.  I was at the gym, working with my personal trainer.  There was one other person there, a man, working with his personal trainer (also male).  I have shared the room with this person more times than I can count.  He always shows that he is trying very hard to complete each move.  This particular night he was taking a lot of breaks and his trainer all of a sudden shouted, "Erin, act like a man!!"  I looked over and wrinkled my face.  I then preceded to tell my trainer about my class experience with the Man Box.  Even when working out, we expect men to get through their workout with minimal breaks and signs of struggle.  We all struggle, men included.  Men should not be subjected to words such as these, just as women shouldn't be subjected to "Oh, well you're a woman so I didn't think you could lift that much weight anyway."


Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Changing the Game


Drake, a popular rapper is working towards making a change on the way rappers are supposed to be viewed. He is known for his emotional music, and has been labeled "soft" or has been criticized for not being a good rapper because he puts himself out there emotionally, and sings about things like heartbreak. He puts women on a pedestal and sings about them in a positive light. Rappers are known for their music to have explicit content regarding women, treating them like objects, and speaking about them in an aggressive or abusive way. This is the socially excepted norm for the industry. Drake, who has a large fan base, is changing the game, shaping the youth of today to view masculinity in a new light.

Tuesday, September 6, 2016

I Wish I Could Fill... By Emily Rosen


I wish I could fill my mouth with sunlight 
and let you drink from my lips
till you felt the light in you

I wish I knew how to apologize 
for all the ways
they beat the feeling out of you
and told you
your tenderness was weak

I saw it happening
And here is the worst part
I agreed

Gender Performance Clip from Transparent (beautiful and powerful moment)

Transparent: On Gender Performance



Transparent. Written and directed by Emmy-nominee and 2013 Sundance Best Director winner Jill Soloway (Afternoon Delight, Six Feet Under and United States of Tara), Transparent is a darkly comedic story about an LA family with serious boundary issues. In this exploration of sex, memory, gender and legacy, the past and future unravel when a dramatic admission causes everyone's secrets to spill out. Jeffrey Tambor, Judith Light, Gaby Hoffman, Amy Landecker and Jay Duplass star in the pilot.

New season available for streaming on Amazon Prime.

Sunday, September 4, 2016

Good evening,

My name is Oliver and I have been having some computer trouble that has affected getting into this blog, hence the late post. I work 7 days a week and have very little free time between school and both of my jobs. I am passionate about feminism and challenging masculinity. I look forward to getting to know the rest of you through this blog (and the course overall)!

Best,

Oli

I have no idea what I am doing!

Hi, my name is Heather and I have no idea what I am doing.  This will be a new learning experience for me as I continue to spread my wings and step outside of my box.

My First Time Blogging

Hello all. I'm Angel and a little new to blogging. I look forward to exploring articles and posts about masculinities.

"My Brother's Pregnancy and the Making of a New American Family"

My Brother’s Pregnancy and the Making of a New American Family

My brother Evan was born female. He came out as transgender 16 years ago but never stopped wanting to have a baby. This spring he gave birth to his first child... (from Time by Jessi Hempel)


Friday, September 2, 2016

Are there differences in raising boys and girls?

http://www.cnn.com/2013/09/16/living/parents-levs-daughter/index.html

According to the above link... Girls are more emotional than Boys.  Boys tend to stick to their mothers and Girls tends to stick to their fathers.  This was a good read.

Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Mom's Response to Being Called a 'Bad Mommy' Over Son's Tutu Goes Viral

“Roo may not always want to dress this way, but we hope that he’ll remember that, when he did, he was loved,” she continue. “We hope he’ll know that no matter what other people thought or said in response, there was always peace and safety in our home.”
Mom's Response to Being Called a 'Bad Mommy' Over Son's Tutu Goes Viral

Thursday, August 4, 2016

Black Masculinity--Real Talk for Boys

Mic.com posted a touching and important video highlighting the powerful role men can play in the development of boys to strengthen their own paths forward.

Working on uploading the video but check it out here:
This karate teacher is schooling young black boys on modern masculinity.

Monday, May 23, 2016

"Man Who Has It All" Facebook/Parody Site

Was introduced to this "Man Who Has It All" Facebook page today. Parody to incite thought about gender roles (especially men and parenthood) and perceptions. Thoughts?


These Four "Ordinary" Men Got Madeup and Photoshopped to Match the "Ideal" Male Body



By Mark Denicola from Collective Evolution
While the majority of beauty ideals are directed towards women, men certainly feel the pressure to be beautiful, too. To prove this, the four gentlemen behind The Try Guys (Keith Habersberger, Ned Fulmer, Eugene Lee Yang, and Zach Kornfeld) decided to seek professional help in re-creating four famous male celebrity photos.
They decided to document the entire experience, showing not only just how many adjustments can be made in the creative process but also how they feel about their bodies.http://www.collective-evolution.com/

Friday, March 18, 2016

"Can a Man Be a Feminist?" (Buzzfeed video)

I teach Women's and Gender Studies and a course on Theories of Masculinity as part of that program. There are various perspectives on whether or not men can be feminists, call themselves feminist, use the term "pro-feminist" instead of "feminist," ETCETERA. This video sums up some of these issues, which we explore at length in my Masculinities course, as there are pro-feminist movements, pro-male movements (quite different), men who claim feminism, and men who absolutely resist it. It's an important and compelling issue, particularly because feminism is not JUST about women and is still so misunderstood and stereotyped.

Thursday, December 17, 2015

Double standards: Punk vs Man

          I was having a conversation with some female coworkers and when the subject of men came up it took a sharp left turn.  One of the females I was talking to was saying how she gets so mad at her guy because when she is laying down and sick, he doesn't have it in him to immediately come in and tend to her, waiting on her hand and foot.  She said "I really just want him to be sweet and sensitive to me."

        The conversation went on about how she is very hard on guys because she doesn't want any man she deals with romantically to be like any of the men that were in her life when she grew up.  So, I asked, "In y'all's opinion...what is a man?"  Boy, was did I get a barrage of contradictions based on stereotypes that she had bought into throughout her life!  I told them that I was going to take notes because I am in a Masculinity Theories class that this material would be perfect for.

        Keep in mind that these women were a wide range of ages, from 19 years old at the youngest and 52 at the eldest.  I was surprised to find that of them, the older women seemed to be the most open minded as to sex and gender.  I guess I should not have been surprised though, when I take into consideration the images of men, boys and gays  in movies, on TV and even in the news.  The younger ones all agreed that in order to be a man, a male has to be working or have a business, he must be physically strong.  Although they varied in skin tone, eye color, hair texture/style, and overall body type.  Every single description of a man was stereotypical, including the fact that if he had any effeminate traits that meant he was gay, and therefore not a man.

        It was the oldest woman who challenged them on their views, and it was quite entertaining to witness.  She asked them some of the same questions that we have discussed in this class.  During the interaction some of the young women were open minded and took into consideration the wisdom coming from her.  Some of them though, were not having it.  They left the same way they came to the conversation.  The whole thing reminded me of society as a whole.  There are some who are always open-minded and accepting, then there are those who are firm in their beliefs but are still willing to listen and learn something new, finally you have those who, no matter what, will not budge on the way they think.

Wednesday, December 2, 2015

Trans views of masculinity

We get a lot of perspective about masculinity from cisgender men and women and I wanted to find some viewpoints from transmasculine/nonbinary folks. This article interviews twelve trans people about their definition of masculinity, along with a little blurb about each person's job, age and gender identity. I loved how the the first person asked about where they are on the gender spectrum answered, "Over it."

The gender binary can cause trans people to feel forced into presenting as the opposite gender they were assigned at birth in order for people to not automatically assign them that same gender immediately upon seeing or meeting them. I admire those who push their own and others' views about the binary system of gendering, which can be intensely limiting to everyone born into that system. Another person, when asked about where they fit into the spectrum, simply stated their name, "Thomas." Take a look at the article to read about each person's definition of masculinity as it relates to their gender.

Masculinity Means...

Monday, November 30, 2015

Is There a Lack of Reassurance for Men and Boys?

The above link is to a This American Life episode in which various types of "status updates" are discussed. The first act is all about the ways in which girls interact over social media, specifically the ways they compliment each other. Unsurprisingly, girls engage in myriad social interactions centered around compliments and reassurance. Complimenting each other is how girls construct their social networks, it's how they express love, desire for friendship, admiration, even jealousy. Perhaps most importantly is the abundance of reassurance and encouragement that girls and women give each other. Encouragement and reassuring love of all sorts is vital for people to feel and be emotionally stable and available. While girls and women are socialized to be open with their emotions, men are socialized to be the opposite. In fact, it is considered unmanly and gay to express compliments toward another man. And as we've learned throughout this course, gay and unmanly are two of the most terrifying things to be for a man. To preserve masculinity men must be inexpressive and emotionally cold. When men are seen complimenting each other it's either portrayed negatively or as a joke:

http://www.buzzfeed.com/mikerose/men-try-to-compliment-each-other#.nvRwrZQGZp

Shouldn't we be wondering what broader effects the lack of emotional communication has on young boys?

Toxic Masculinity and Mass Shootings


"...toxic masculinity is a performance that emphasizes violence, control over others, sexual aggression and a lack of emotion and vulnerability." In a recent module we learned about masculinity and violence. The movies, video clips, and readings all showed different links between the two. We also learned about race as it relates to masculinity. All aspects of people's lives are intertwined, and in some cases factors intertwine in ways that cause violence towards others. For example, Dylann Roof, a young, white, middle-class male, shot 10 African American church-goers in Charleston, North Carolina, killing 9 of them in an attempt to start a "race war."  "Roof’s racism and sexism thus intersect in what philosophers Carol Pateman and Charles Mills have described as 'racial patriarchy.' This is a system of racial domination in which people of color are subordinate to whites. It is also a relationship where white men have more power than white women." Roof embodies the idea of toxic masculinity, and when mixed with unstable home life, white supremacist views, and access to a firearm, he did what other young white males have done in an attempt to reclaim power they feel they have lost in life: he took that anger and used it to kill innocent people. 

Mass shootings are all too common in America, with more than 200 mass killings in the US since 2006. But every time media talks about a mass shooting, they leave out the most important patterns from their analysis: the shooters are almost always white, middle-class men."The corporate news media does not want a sustained discussion of gun violence as a type of public health crisis. The corporate news media is also unwilling to discuss how domestic terrorism by right-wing white men is now the United States’ leading threat to public order. Very troublingly, the corporate news media considers it impolitic to explore how the right-wing echo chamber is radicalizing and weaponizing its followers." If we want to stop these shootings from happening we need to do a number of things, including raising boys with the notion that they shouldn't use violence as a solution to their problems.


http://www.salon.com/2015/07/07/the_plague_of_angry_white_men_how_racism_gun_culture_toxic_masculinity_are_poisoning_america_in_tandem/

http://www.gannett-cdn.com/GDContent/mass-killings/index.html#title

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dylann_Roof

Sunday, November 29, 2015

“What’s Wrong with Fathers Rights?”

Author Michael Flood presents his discussion, “What’s Wrong with Fathers Rights?” in Men Speak Out: Views on Gender, Sex, and Power which was edited by Shira Tarrant. Flood speaks from an informed anti-sexist and pro-feminist position on the pitfalls of men’s rights groups. Flood explains that individual men who seek out support from a men’s rights group can be allotted into either those undergoing custody battles, are wanting more contact with their children, or are non-custodial parents seeking lessened child support. Flood approaches the controversial topic of men’s rights by relating the most pertinent facts of the men’s rights movement and it’s hindrance towards all parties involved in family disturbances. 

On the topic of how this movement is damaging progress of women, Flood states, “So, what’s wrong with men’s rights? Above all, anti-feminist men’s perspectives are based on a profound denial of the systematic gender inequalities that privilege many men and disadvantage many women” (Flood, ed. Tarrant, 214). It is this inaccurate portrayal of feminists and their cause, that men’s rights movements take part in harming. Their movement offers a distorted perception of the women involved and their relation to men. Flood acknowledges the very real wrongdoings toward some men which is perpetrated by some women by stating that “such instances do not support anti-feminist men’s claim that men are the ‘new Jews’, suffering under what they call a global ‘feminazi’ regime. Men’s and fathers’ rights groups offer a bizarre and fundamentally inaccurate portrayal of feminism as anti-male and fail to see the enormous hope for and goodwill toward men which is embodies” (Flood, ed. Tarrant, 215). These false claims against feminism cheat men of the true, harmonious goals of which feminists strive to achieve.

Michael Flood also argues three main affects in which the fathers’ rights movement is damaging the people who are in direct contact with the men seeking support from the men’s rights advocators. The first, and most critical happenings of the movement’s effects, Flood describes by writing, “Above all, fathers contact with children has been privileged over children’s safety from violence” (Flood, ed. Tarrant, 215). Flood reveals that ex-partners and children are being subjected to further abuse from violent men as the court system is alarmingly relying on the men’s rights movement suggestion that a father – no matter their abusive tendencies – is better than no father at all. This privileged belief subjects ex-partners and children to even further unnecessary physical violence and/or psychological scarring.

The second effect of the men’s movement is described by Flood as having a “negative impact on community understandings of violence against women and children…. Father’s rights groups… claim that women routinely make up allegations of domestic violence to gain advantage in family law case and… advocates [of the men’s rights movement] encourage the mistaken belief that domestic violence is gender-equal” (Flood, ed. Tarrant, 216). Flood explains through statistical research that women who do go through with a restraining order are doing so as a last-resort to safeguard from extreme violence. Furthermore, men who are the victims of domestic violence are more likely to be assaulted by other men; Flood states, a “four-year study of admissions to the Emergency Department of a Missouri hospital found… over 8000 men who had been assaulted,… only 45 men were injured by… intimate female partners… representing 0.55[%]… of male assault visits…. Boys and men are most at risk of physical harm from other boys and men” (Flood, ed. Tarrant, 217).

The third impact the father’s rights movement has on violence against both men and women, is its goal to “erode the protections available to victims of domestic violence and to boost the rights and freedoms of alleged perpetrators” (Flood, ed. Tarrant, 217). The movement is aiming to breakdown the public response to victims of domestic violence and reduce the readily viable options for those in need of protection and assistance from perpetrators of abuse. Father’s rights groups approach the topics of domestic and sexual violence, “the same way as actual male perpetrators: They minimize and deny the extent of this violence, blame the victim, and explain the violence as mutual or reciprocal” (Flood, ed. Tarrant, 217).


Through his work, Michael Flood reveals the true nature of men’s rights and father’s rights movements which aim to “control mothers’ management of finances, parenting, and contact… [fueling] interparental conflict, leading to more problems with contact and further stress for children” (Flood, ed. Tarrant, 218). Michael Flood explains that we as a whole must help men who are facing these stress inducing situations and help them – in positive and constructive ways – maintain connection to their children as good fathers. Flood states, “We must step up efforts to engage men in positive ways, building partnerships with supportive men and men’s groups and with the women’s movements. All this is part of a broader profeminist effort, to build a world of gender justice" (Flood, ed. Tarrant, 219). 

What Is Happening to Our Boys?


When it comes to education, boys are falling behind. Boys' grades are lower than girls' grades. Their dropout rate is 25% higher than girls. And less boys are going onto college after they graduate high school. What is the problem? Some suggest that boys and girls learn differently, and that our currently curriculum are more in tune to the ways girls learn. Some suggest we need more male teachers in elementary education.
I worked in a VPK classroom for two years, and before that I worked in a toddler classroom. It wasn't primary education, but I did notice a lot about little boys. More often than not, they would get criticized for moving too much. The games and imaginary play they wanted to do was discouraged. There was never enough sensory play for them. Boys were constantly pushed to be physical but at the same time punished for it. I felt that boys had so many mixed signals being sent to them.
Currently, I volunteer in elementary aged classrooms. I am so encouraged by one of the teachers I volunteer with. He is an older military veteran that currently teaches second grade. I think it is so wonderful for the children in his class. So often boys are only surrounded by one or two parental men in their lives. In family structures, fathers are usually only brought into the conversation about their child's education when there is a problem. (The school I volunteer with has already had multiple events trying to get the dads more involved in school.) Could this be solved by boys having more support surrounding their education? I think so. 

Does Movember bringing awareness to cancer or masculinity?

For anyone that doesn't know, November is prostate cancer awareness month. Men are encouraged to grow mustaches and beards hence the name Movember (November + mustache). I read an article that included an insightful conversation about how the concept of Movember does much more harm than good.

Movember Mustache Campaign for Prostate Cancer is Misguided

The article made a great point about how the campaign focuses on the ability to grow a beard and completely avoids actually talking about prostates and prostate cancer. They also talked about the campaign's irrational need to heavily emphasize gender in the same way breast cancer awareness does. The campaign essentially pushes the notion that embracing masculinity somehow saves lives and honors people affected by prostate cancer. In addition, instead of having the month be about men being honest and vulnerable about the disease, that opportunity is taken away from them in favor of encouraging "bros to be bros for a month".

I agree with the points brought up in the article. I think cancer awareness should always be about focusing on the disease and saving lives. I feel like people walk around joking about "No Shave November" but really have no idea what it's for. The month should be spent educating people with prostates about getting check ups and about the gland in general. Mustaches are completely irrelevant.

What do you all think? Do you think the campaign is doing it's job or do you think it distracts from the original cause of bringing awareness to prostate cancer?

Anger Helps Men Gain Influence



What kinds of biases do we have inside of us? How affect do they have in our everyday lives? One study suggests that when women display anger, it hurts them. But when men do it, it helps them. We all have implicit biases and whether we wish to or not, they influence our actions. (Harvard made a test you can take to help you recognize them.) It is important that we identify how it is we understand masculinity and femininity, and how it shapes our interactions. 

Men can yell at no cost, and a recent example is the Presidential Primary Debates. There are male candidates that feel comfortable raising their voices, but those same male candidates have criticized the female candidates for doing the same. Why is it ok for them to do it? Because our culture allows men to display anger. 

Salerno, Jessica M., and Liana C. Peter-Hagene. "One Angry Woman: Anger Expression Increases Influence For Men, But Decreases Influence For Women, During Group Deliberation." Law And Human Behavior (2015): PsycARTICLES.

I recently started working for a clothing store as a cashier, which definitely falls into the feminine realm of work, as shopping for clothes is something only women are supposed to have an interest in. In talking to the other cashiers the other day, we realized that every single person designated as a cashier on our work schedule is a woman. Men will come help us out if the line gets too long and we need backup, but men are only officially ever scheduled to work out on the floor straightening things, putting things away, and helping customers.
My coworkers and I came to the conclusion that this is because all men are supposed to be able to lift things, while only some women can show physical strength. It would be a waste of the manpower to assign them to sit behind a register for hours on end. Even beyond this assignment, men are never assigned to work in a section of clothes for women. Men are only ever assigned to shoes, the home department (heavy picture frames and bedding sets!), the men’s clothes department, and electronics, never customer service, infants/children’s clothes, women’s clothes, teen girls’ clothes, jewelry, or intimates. It seems like there’s this implication that men wouldn’t know their way around these sections, as if men blinded by their own masculinity wouldn’t be able to learn to tell different types of bras apart. Even if it’s common sense (I managed to figure out how to navigate the different sections by myself), there’s this sense of having to act purposefully clueless when asked to find a particular thing in a women’s section.
Masculinity imposes even in a location and job as feminine as a clothing store. Men are expected to be active and strong, not passive and still as cashiers have to be, and it’s become bizarre to me how no one points this out. The standard only goes the one way—women can work the men’s department, and are assigned there regularly. Even though this lack of well-roundedness in the male employees slows things down as women have to rush around making up for men’s lack of knowledge, nobody questions or makes changes because it’s so unthinkable to adjust the way we think about male employees.